Teachers (and often relief teachers) are put into the difficult situation of dealing with sensitive issues with kids. It is a tough position for teachers but even tougher for kids. Teachers need to recognise that they are very significant adults in a student's life.
Honestly you can't afford to get this wrong. If you don't feel confident dealing with sensitive issues pass the job on to someone who does. If the child approaches you then ensure you play a part in the process. That might mean sitting with the child as they taught to the guidance officer or counsellor.
What ever role you play is important to the child.
Kids want to talk to their teachers about sensitive issues. They want to ask questions when teachers are open to them. If children feel fearful in asking a question or feel they shall be reprimanded in some way, they will naturally shy away from it.
It is our responsibility to create an open atmosphere where our kids feel confident, relaxed and secure in communication with teachers. Kids should be happy with asking us any question, any time on any topic without fear of consequences.
Be prepared to revisit your communication chats often.
It is natural for young children to turn to their parents first for information but sometime their teacher is just as important in helping them deal with sensitive issues.. When communication is about sensitive issues with kids at a young age you are able to instil your values and set standards. Teachers beware! You have a legal position in the place of a parent but not to replace them. Unless the sensitive issue actually involves the parents, you must invite them to be a part of the discussion.
At every turn, receive the support of your principal.
Teens tend to turn to their peers more for communication of key issues unless they have established a close and open relationship with their parents or teachers. It is important to take advantage of opportunities to discuss sensitive issues as they arise and teach your kids the facts
Giving your kids some undivided attention during communication improves their self esteem and lets them know that what they have to say is important to you and you are interested in listening to them. Teaching is a busy job and it is difficult to stop what we're doing sometimes. It can be quite off putting when you're trying to talk to someone who is obviously not listening wholeheartedly. For example if they're on the computer,or marking work.
Listen to what they are really asking, as this will help you know how many details they need to know. Before you jump into check what is being asked.
Effective Communication with your kids also fosters their self esteem.
While kids will mostly come and ask questions from time to time, some do not. Therefore it is necessary to initiate conversation with your kids about everyday issues.
Remember that the vocabulary you use needs to be appropriate for their age level. Use shorter and simpler words for young children and more technical information for older children.
Particularly young children take much longer to absorb information and comprehend discussions you have had. Be prepared for them to want to revisit your conversations often and know that this is very normal.
Patience and persistence will help the process run smoothly for you both.
Once you have had a discussion or even a few with your kids, you too can revisit conversations. You may ask them what they have learnt or what they remember about a particular topic. This way you can check their understanding and correct any misconceptions
Bring up sensitive issues that are topical as they arise for example when kids mentions something that appeared on TV, in the paper, down the street. This shows that you will talk about these subjects with little fuss at any time.
If you are a little nervous about talking about some issues with your kids, definitely get some resources to help and guide you. Go to the library or bookstore and ask for books relevant for your kid's age group.
Don't hesitate to talk values and feelings along with the facts. Obviously teachers need an emotional distance here but your kids feel reassured and more secure to hear of the emotional aspects of sensitive issues. This guides them in understanding their own feelings.
Share with your kids how the issues make you feel and how you deal with them. Ask them how they feel too and talk about ways they can deal with the feelings they experience.
Kids do need facts, but reassurance is just as important.
Provide straightforward and truthful answers. Children are very perceptive and if they do not receive an honest answer, they tend to fill in the gaps for themselves, which are often incorrect leaving them confused.
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